5 Questions to Ask During Parent–Teacher Conferences

Parent–teacher conferences are one of the best chances to connect with the people who spend so much time helping your child learn and grow. But let’s be honest — it’s easy to walk out thinking of ten questions you should have asked.

Whether your child is thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, asking the right questions turns a quick meeting into a meaningful conversation about growth, strengths, and next steps.

Here are five questions that will help you make the most of that time — and strengthen the partnership between home and school.

1. What are my child’s strengths?

It’s easy to start with what’s hard, but beginning with what’s working sets a positive tone and helps everyone see your child through a strength-based lens.

Ask your child’s teacher what they’ve noticed your child doing well — academically, socially, or emotionally. Maybe it’s persistence on tough tasks, kindness to classmates, or creativity in problem-solving.

Understanding your child’s natural strengths helps you reinforce them at home and gives your child something to feel proud of.

2. What goals should we focus on next?

This question shifts the conversation from a list of grades to a growth plan. Teachers often have insight into the specific skills your child is ready to strengthen — like moving from decoding to deeper comprehension, or applying math skills in new ways.

Together, identify one or two goals that feel realistic and meaningful. Then, ask how you can support them at home. Having shared goals keeps everyone rowing in the same direction.

3. How does my child interact with peers?

Academic progress matters, but social and emotional growth is equally important. Children who feel safe, included, and connected learn best.

Ask your child’s teacher to describe how your child works in groups, handles challenges, or participates in class. You might learn that they’re a quiet leader, a loyal friend, or someone who’s learning to speak up more.

Knowing how your child navigates social settings helps you support confidence, empathy, and communication at home.

4. What can we do at home to reinforce learning?

This is one of the most valuable questions you can ask. Teachers can share simple strategies that make a big difference — like reading together, practicing math facts through games, or building routines that support focus.

The goal isn’t to add more “work” but to make learning feel connected across school and home. Even small things, like letting your child explain what they learned that day, help deepen understanding and build ownership of learning.

5. How can we stay connected throughout the year?

Conferences are just one touchpoint — but strong communication all year builds trust and teamwork.

Ask your child’s teacher about their preferred way to stay in touch (email, notes, apps, etc.) and how often they share updates. Let them know you’re open to collaboration and value the relationship.

When teachers and families feel like partners, kids feel supported on all sides.

Final Thoughts

Parent–teacher conferences are about connection, not perfection. You don’t need to cover every detail in one meeting. Focus on understanding your child as a learner and as a person — what motivates them, where they shine, and where they could use a little extra support.

The best question you can end with?

“What can I do to make your job easier as my child’s teacher?”

It’s a small sentence that shows appreciation, partnership, and respect — and that spirit is what makes the biggest difference for kids.