What to Say to Kids Other Than “Good Job”

What to Say to Kids Other Than “Good Job”

By Jenna Klemm | Rockstar Leaders

If you’ve ever found yourself saying “Good job!” on repeat throughout the day, you’re not alone. It’s one of those automatic phrases we often use to praise kids. While there’s nothing wrong with celebrating success, we sometimes forget that children need more than generic praise—they need to feel truly seen, understood, and encouraged.

The words we choose matter. Thoughtful, specific language helps children internalize a growth mindset and build confidence in who they are—not just in what they do. Below are some meaningful alternatives you can try instead of “Good job!” that celebrate effort, progress, and individuality.

Instead of “Good Job,” Try Saying:

1. “I noticed how hard you worked on that.”

This shows them you value their effort, not just the outcome.

2. “You figured that out all by yourself!”

Acknowledging problem-solving fosters independence and pride.

3. “Look how much you’ve grown!”

Celebrate progress, even if it’s small. Kids thrive on knowing they’re improving.

4. “I’m so proud of you!”

Simple and heartfelt. It shows you care deeply about their journey.

5. “You are a rockstar!”

Let kids know they’re shining in their own unique way.

6. “I believe in you.”

These four words can mean everything to a child facing a challenge.

7. “That took courage.”

Recognize bravery—not just success. Whether they spoke up, tried something new, or kept going after a tough moment, this kind of praise validates effort beyond achievement.

8. “You really thought that through.”

Celebrate their thinking process and critical thinking skills.

9. “You were so kind just now.”

Noticing kind behavior reinforces it and helps children value their impact on others.

10. “Tell me how you did that!”

This opens the door for reflection and helps them process their own learning.

 Why It Matters

Praise is powerful—but when it’s specific, personal, and connected to effort or character, it becomes transformational. By shifting our language, we help children understand that they are more than their performance. They are learners, problem-solvers, creators, and compassionate humans—and we see them.

So the next time you’re tempted to say “Good job,” try pausing and reaching for one of the phrases above. You might be surprised how much it opens up connection, conversation, and confidence.